Some Call It Love, We Call It A Walking Red Flag: 25 Scenarios For You To Judge

Taking serious accountability matters.

Well they can expect all they like, they won't get.

Why should this be a thing? Your friends are your friends, they're not his. I wouldn't force my SO to become acquainted with my friends if she didn't want to, and I wouldn't expect her to do so, either.

Yeah, not cool. Your phone and your computer is yours, and should always remain completely private.

There's a common denominator there

Sure, because sometimes they don't wanna deal with you. Also gas lighting you. But also maybe it can just be ignorance. Why don't you ever believe me!? Can also be used as a manipulative gas lighting phrase to question yourself and bring doubts. So I'm sure it's the same with " you're too sensitive." I am actually extremely sensitive due to my BPD. When my husband says it, it feels more ignorant ( lack of understanding). Could be lack of empathy though too. Most people say this to me. My therapist just says to me, the world would be a better place with more sensitive people.

That's all them ( projection of self ) and not at all you. Just walk away and move on. Leave negativity and criticism behind. People who feel good about themselves (emotionally healthy) do not tear other people down. There's no need to do it. You're supposed to be kind and gentle with yourself. Self validation is #1. When you need constant outside validation, there's something wrong. Because, you're unable to love yourself. You're worthy.. once you realize this.. it's easy to just not pay attention to these types of people and walk away "happily."

So it's a red flag if he's an introvert? Okay.

Depends on their other interactions

One of the reasons I'm with my wife is because she had some Tull in her collection when we met. And then when I played her Zappa, she didn't run screaming.

I don't expect people to follow my advice. I expect them not to complain when they do the opposite and backfires spectacularly.

It's already happening if it's on their mind.

Gotta start somewhere. Some people need to explore what they want an experience things before they find out who they want to settle with.

I wouldn't explain why unless I'm seriously committed to someone. I don't go around explaining my family history

That's a timing thing. If they talk about the future too soon: worrying. If they don't talk about the future after being together for a long time: worrying

Not a good sign.

Honestly I'm British and most of us do this!

Rule of thumb, never make a promise you may not be able to keep.

Different jives for different vibes.

Me and my husband have all of each other's passwords, but we also at an age where talking about what happens if one of us suddenly dies or becomes completely incapacitated is a thing that becomes important. But in a new relationship that is a red flag.

Depends on the context.

If anything it's completely normal and healthy to have separate interests. But it's good to try to take in each other's interests, try it out, observe, try to understand what it's all about.

This is coercive controlling territory. HUGE red flag. Run.

I don't know if it's manipulation or just irrealistic expectations about a relationship, but it's exhausting

How is this not 100% red flag?